I'm very strict. I take a lot of heat for it. I hold my children accountable for their actions. It's going to go one of two ways, they will turn out to be responsible, dependable, independent adults, or they will hate me and rebel. I'm taking my chances on it being the first. They do something they shouldn't at school, swim, soccer, music, art, etc, there are consequences. Those consequences shift depending on interests, time, etc, but there are always consequences. At swimming, if the kids act up in lessons, they lose free play for the next time we go. If they act up again, they lose free play for the remainder of lessons. Unlike a lot of parents I, a) watch my kids while they are someplace, and b) have no problem pulling my kids out in the middle of something and leaving if they are not behaving. To many people this is extreme. I don't see it that way. I see it as a logical consequence. You can't behave, you don't get to do it. It's simple. My kids also are starting to understand that there are positive consequences as well. You behave, you get to continue doing what you enjoy. Isn't that how the "real" world is supposed to work? When did it shift? When did people start thinking, "Eh, I don't have to follow rules. I just sue people who get in my way and say it's my right"? Forget about even being responsible for their own actions, where has human decency gone?
A friend of mine posted this article on Facebook the other day. Along with the article, she posted this, " This is why today's youth has such an awful sense of entitlement. Such a shame. What happened to your kid doing wrong and HIM getting punished at home? Kick his @$$, ground him, make him accountable!! ". Sadly, this doesn't surprise me. It was only a matter of time. Next, parents will be suing teachers for making kids pay attention and behave in class. What is this world coming to? Where are the values? Another friend of mine is a college professor and he's been saying for years now that the generations right behind us are lazy and have a strange sense of entitlement. They have very poor work ethics and believe that things should be handed to them. They believe everything is negotiation. Don't like your grade, go try to negotiate with the professor, when that doesn't work, go to the Dean. Our future is in THEIR hands? I'm all about fighting for what you think is right and standing your ground, but laziness and cheating are not things to fight for.
I'm very strict. I take a lot of heat for it. I hold my children accountable for their actions. It's going to go one of two ways, they will turn out to be responsible, dependable, independent adults, or they will hate me and rebel. I'm taking my chances on it being the first. They do something they shouldn't at school, swim, soccer, music, art, etc, there are consequences. Those consequences shift depending on interests, time, etc, but there are always consequences. At swimming, if the kids act up in lessons, they lose free play for the next time we go. If they act up again, they lose free play for the remainder of lessons. Unlike a lot of parents I, a) watch my kids while they are someplace, and b) have no problem pulling my kids out in the middle of something and leaving if they are not behaving. To many people this is extreme. I don't see it that way. I see it as a logical consequence. You can't behave, you don't get to do it. It's simple. My kids also are starting to understand that there are positive consequences as well. You behave, you get to continue doing what you enjoy. Isn't that how the "real" world is supposed to work? When did it shift? When did people start thinking, "Eh, I don't have to follow rules. I just sue people who get in my way and say it's my right"? Forget about even being responsible for their own actions, where has human decency gone?
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