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3/26/2012

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Life is all about choices.  Sometimes it feels like we have no choice in a matter, but, that in itself, is a choice. Each choice leads to another choice.  Choices also lead to consequences.  It is weighing the consequences that makes us believe we have no choice.  Buy the Coach purse or have next month's rent?  To me it seems like a no brainer.  I'd rather have a roof over my head than a stupid purse (and yes, I just called Coach stupid).  However, a lot of people look at it and figure that they can figure out how to get extra money for the rent.  My husband and I choose to live within our means.   From reading about debt in the is country, a lot of people make the opposite choice.  For us, the consequence of living in debt isn't worth the choice to buy all the latest technology or wear designer clothes.    

I'm working very hard on changing my perspective/attitude about certain things.  I've always been a realist.  I'm not a glass half full or empty person. I'm more of a "do I want more or am I done with my drink" kind of person.  That means that sometimes, I do see the glass as half empty.  And that's a choice.  I'm trying to stay out of the negative by realizing choices have been made for a reason.  Last week, a friend announced she was pregnant.  Recently lots of people have been pregnant and with all those people I've just been glad it wasn't me!  This one though, stung.  I still don't know why.  We made a choice to be done having children.   I spiraled down for a moment thinking that even if we wanted to, we couldn't have kids.  That's not true.  We could have kids until menopause if we wanted, but we have made choices on how that would affect our way of life.  After logically going through all the choices we made and why we chose not to have more children, I felt much more positive.  (And anyone who remembers how horribly sick I was for 9 months with Sunshine would completely understand why I wouldn't choose to do that again).  

We've been working hard at teaching Monster and Sunshine that there are choices to be made every step of the way.  Each choice leads to another choice based on the consequence of the previous choice. For example, Monster chooses not to brush his teeth in the morning.  That could lead to a cavity, which he will have to get filled (that's my choice).  There's the consequence.  Is the consequence worth it to him to choose not to brush his teeth in the morning?  Some days.  Being as my kids are only almost 3 and almost 6, most of their choices are made by me and Husband and their teachers.  Their choice is to listen or not listen.  They listen, good stuff happens.  They don't, bad stuff.  I know it's not always that black and white.  Life throws you curve balls.  How you handle them is your choice though.  Sometimes, things really are just unfair.  How you deal with that is a choice.  I'm trying my best to take time, get emotional, push through, and then get logical.  That's my choice.  I choose to move on.  I choose not to dwell.  I choose to be happy.



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3/26/2012 11:09:18 am

Good choice, Punkin! If you choose to be happy, then you WILL be happy...even if negative things happen to come your way. It's HOW you deal with it. That's what I'm attempting to do right now with the shoulder surgery. You are an inspiration to your old mom! I love you!

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