It also helps that we're working on these concepts with Monster. He's extremely motivated, to do what he wants to do. Biggest problem with him is he is like his father and extremely disorganized. Therefore, he runs out of time and motivation. We are calling this process logical consequences. For example. Each morning we get up, eat breakfast, go potty, and get dressed (not always in that order). If it gets done in a timely fashion, there is time to play before school. If it doesn't, there is not time to play before school. Playing is a "reward" for getting it done. It is not a right. To show how we're not being unfair, we give him examples from our own lives. Mommy chooses to sit and watch TV after the kids go to bed, I then have to get my work done in the morning instead of having computer time. Daddy chooses to play on the computer instead of doing his paperwork, he has to get up extra early or stay late at work to finish it up. Logical consequences for choices we make. That seriously helps with the motivation issue. And it helps with time. It's an incentive to just get it done while you have a free moment. You have to weigh the pro's and con's and decide what you're willing to sacrifice for choices made. Logical consequences. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. We call that life.
I've had several people tell me that I do more in an hour than they do in a day. They ask me where I find the time and the motivation. The motivation is tough, that's an internal thing. Some days, I'm not motivated to do anything except unfreeze penguins. However, most days, I find my motivation with my children. We are not a sit-on-our-butts kind of family. We are doers. In fact, just yesterday I was discussing with some people how I got my wish of having active children. Because they are constantly on the go, I have to keep up. The time is the easy part, for most things. I can throw a load of clothes in the wash when the kids are eating breakfast. I make the kids crafts with them. I vacuum while the kids are having lunch (there it is, there's the secret of how I vacuum every day...I don't eat). Time is an issue for a lot of things, but for the little stuff, there's always time. I'm lucky because my children are at the ages where they also give me time. "Mommy needs to do this right now. When I'm done, I'll do that." They don't always like it, but they understand. I'm also up at the crack of dawn. This is my down time. This is my me time. I get all my computer stuff out of the way so I can be focused and ready for the day. One more organization thing I have added to my mornings is, while surfing Pinterest, I find and activity to do with the kids that day and leave it up on the screen. Since the computer room is also the playroom, I see it up and remember that's something fun we can do. It's finding little ways to be organized, things that work for you, that help keep you motivated and free up time.
It also helps that we're working on these concepts with Monster. He's extremely motivated, to do what he wants to do. Biggest problem with him is he is like his father and extremely disorganized. Therefore, he runs out of time and motivation. We are calling this process logical consequences. For example. Each morning we get up, eat breakfast, go potty, and get dressed (not always in that order). If it gets done in a timely fashion, there is time to play before school. If it doesn't, there is not time to play before school. Playing is a "reward" for getting it done. It is not a right. To show how we're not being unfair, we give him examples from our own lives. Mommy chooses to sit and watch TV after the kids go to bed, I then have to get my work done in the morning instead of having computer time. Daddy chooses to play on the computer instead of doing his paperwork, he has to get up extra early or stay late at work to finish it up. Logical consequences for choices we make. That seriously helps with the motivation issue. And it helps with time. It's an incentive to just get it done while you have a free moment. You have to weigh the pro's and con's and decide what you're willing to sacrifice for choices made. Logical consequences. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. We call that life.
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