Then there are pins like positive affirmations for you child. I skim those over and feel good about myself. These are things I say to my kid every day. "I'm lucky to have you". "You have such a big heart". "I hear you". I say these types of things to my kids every day. I keep these pins around to remind me that I'm doing a good job. They make me feel good about myself, but they just stay there, unread
The truth about parenting is that no matter what you pin, read, don't read, do or don't do, there are always going to be moments when you feel like a failure or the best parent in the world. Sometimes, these moments will even come within seconds of each other! You can read all you want, but nothing truly prepares you for the ups and downs of parenting.
For example, yesterday, I woke my daughter up at 7:45 only to have her ask me, immediately upon waking up, "When's my next safety patrol meeting?". Crap. That would be at 8:00. Total parenting fail. There are no books that teach you how to deal with that situation. You just do the best you can. Ten minutes later, I had a parenting win when Sunshine and I were headed out the door. She ate breakfast and got ready in 10 minutes. Apparently, I did something right to be able to have a kid be so prepared for school, it only takes 10 minutes from waking up to walking out the door. Again, no books tell you how to do this. You just do it. Some people wouldn't have been able to make it in 10 minutes, and that's OK, too.
We all get the books and read the articles, or in my case, pin the pins, but never read anything, because we all feel like we are failing. At times, we are. At times, we're not. Like I was telling a friend yesterday though, sometimes, we need to fail (or let our kids fail) to learn. No books can teach you how hard it's going to be to fail. No books prepare you for that. Everything we do, teaches us how to become better. Not just better parents, but better humans. It is then our job as parents to help our children learn their own life lessons. No two children are the same, so there is no one "parenting technique" that is going to work. If anything, the biggest parenting tip should be, "be flexible". Of course there are always little tips that help. That's why I have an entire Pinterest board dedicated to parenting! Of course there are things I feel strongly about, like electronics and follow through with consequences. but those are my things. Some people are sticklers for chores. Some grades. No matter what the parenting "thing" is, the hope is that decent, self-sufficient humans emerge.